Tired of talking about the weather or how the Badgers are doing? Use these five conversation starters to find out more about someone than their job, and help forge a meaningful connection.
But isn’t talking about work the point of networking? Not always! Research by Monica Mullick Stallings shows that we form deeper, longer-lasting connections with those with whom we have a multiplex-tie — i.e., more in common than just work. So, don’t be afraid to let the lines blur a little when creating new connections.
- What project are you working on that you are most excited about?
This allows a person to answer in a variety of ways, which is what makes it such a good opening question. They may respond about a work project, like making mascot try outs more efficient, or a personal project, like creating a master plan for the Badgers to win the Rose Bowl. - What was your biggest accomplishment last year?
Maybe they helped get gender-neutral bathrooms at their workplace or built a treehouse with their daughter. Again, the key to the question is how the other person interprets it — let them guide the conversation, and listen closely for things you can connect on. - What’s your favorite thing to do in this city?
Are they a foodie, or do they know all the best clubs? This can be a great way to learn about their interests and also can help you find out some good places to go whether you are a local or tourist. - What do you do for fun?
Sometimes establishing a personal connection first can help boost your professional connection. Figuring out that you have a shared interest, like knitting cheeseheads, can set the groundwork for an engaged conversation about your professional lives.
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